Sunday, August 24, 2008

The Big Talk



Okay, I hope this doesn't offend anyone that I choose to blog about this, but I feel if it will help others dreading their own upcoming "Talk", than yeah!  Some of you know I've been talking about this and sweating over this ever since Alex turned eight, (now she's almost nine!) . . . The Big Talk. . . S-E-X!!  #*&#$*!!#!!!!  I've been putting it off and putting it off and putting it off, thinking maybe some smart kid at school will just tell her and we'll be off the hook, right?  Well, that's exactly what we were trying to avoid. 

I read the book by Richard and Linda Eyre, "How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex". It says that, nowadays, age eight is the time to tell them because of this crazy world we live in.  I was never given "The Big Talk" growing up, so you can only imagine what my wedding night was like! (ha ha, jk)  Anyway, I had nothing to base this talk on and that's why I was freaking out a bit.  The Eyres' book really helped.  They also suggest you have your eight year old read a book called, "Where Did I Come From", which I got and read.  I don't know if it's me and my giggles, but chubby cartoon characters with certain body parts explaining and showing the process was a little too much for me.  So Dave, the Great, suggested we just sit down with her and tell her ourselves. We can do it!  Okey dokey!!  So we hyped it up a little to Al and said we had a special night planned for her, and that we were going to take her out to dinner and a movie and talk to her about something really, really great and amazing.  So before dinner and a movie we stopped at the Mount Timpanogos temple and had our "talk" out on the grass, sweaty palms and all!  Dave took the lead and did a great job!  He started with explaining how Heavenly Father gives us gifts and how wonderful families are to names of body parts and how babies are made to how important it is that we're married in the temple and be committed to eachother.  I did have to nudge him with my foot at one point when he started saying how fun it was and different positions he liked . . . Totally kidding.   Other than that, it really wasn't as difficult as I thought it would be.  Alex took it surprisingly well and in the end thought it was weird . . . Awesome!  We did it!  One down and two to go. . . But seriously, it ended up being a really great positive spiritual experience and we survived! 

 

8 comments:

Michelle Bair said...

Way to go now since you'll be the pro at in in six years when you go to talk to Avery why don't you tell Gavin too!?!
Side note. The other day Gavin woke up from his nap and asked to play with Avery. So cute!

Mandee said...

So, I'm guessing you took her to see Juno after the BIG talk! Ha ha.

Congrats on finally getting that over with. Thanks for the insight, and book recommendations. Did you keep the book with the chubby people in it... I want to see! Kidding. Maybe.

katie riggs said...

I too would like to see the book with the chubby people!! Poor Alex!! I feel so bad for her with all the new images floating in her mind....you guys are great parents, love the picture!! xoxox

Julie Huish said...

I am laughing out loud here in my office, all by myself! You crack me up! I've read the chubby people book to one of my kids (because of recommendation) and I got the giggles so bad that Mike had to take over. But way to go!

summer said...

okay Steph, so my oldest is almost 10 and hadnt even thought about giving the talk yet! Now i'm nervous!!! Thanx for your comments on Mason's Blog.

Nibley-Baker Blog said...

You guys are so brave. When Miles turns eight, can I just send him your way?

Stefanie said...

My only question is- do you hire out!?! I'll let you know in 6 1/2 years when Elle turns 8- maybe you can just do a group session with Elle and Avery? I would be willing to pay you... Great blog by the way!

Jennifer Napierski said...

You were brave. I'm glad it went so well. I'm not sure we're there yet. Let's hope Savi doesn't figure it out before we do.